How do you handle being in an interracial relationship publicly?
Well I've been in an interracial relationship for 4 years and before that none of my other boyfriends have ever been the same race as me. It really shouldn't be a big deal but for some people it is. Race has never really bothered me because my family is Creole and we have so many different shades and colors between all of us.
I used to get so much flack for it though. I remember when I was in high school, this guy asked me out. I just wasn't interested in him. He then went off on me about how I was racist. My teacher actually had to stop class and we had a debate on the situation. Who you wish to date is just personal preference. I personally like all guys from skinny white guys like Adam Brody, beefcake caramel men like Vin diesel, to sexy deep chocolate Morris Chestnut. You won’t only get flack from your own race. I cannot even tell you how many times white girls have come up to me saying stuff like I shouldn’t be with my man and that he should be with them instead. Well guess what? It’s been 4 years and he hasn't gone anywhere. This goes for all races. Love doesn’t see color and just cause you’re part of one race doesn't mean you have to feel limited to dating and befriending only them.
Basically, you just have to do you. As long as you're secure in your relationship that is all that matters. If someone doesn't like it I really don't care. As you can probably tell, I have no issue with saying who is attractive to me. I'll go on and on about it and rub it in their faces. If they don't like it they don't have to associate with me. If that’s not your style, all you can do is ignore them and live your life because its YOUR life. Then it will just rub salt in their wounds when they see that you’re happy and they’re not.
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Oh Muffins. You know I've never had an intra-racial relationship, ever. I've never even seen a boy of my race naked- except babies. I dated a black boy, a hispanic boy, no Asians, lots of white kids, no Indians, Arabs, or anyone from the Asian continent (Where I'm from). My Dad saw Heidi and Seal together and he's just like "She's only doing it because it's in style." I just wanted to say, "Well, did you consider that he is a handsome man, good father, and amazing husband? Perhaps she loves him?" He's one of those people that thinks you belong with your own race. He doesn't understand that this kind of thinking would have kept people of my color down, without any rights, and we wouldn't have the same opportunities as white people. I'm sorry, if you don't accept interracial relationships, you support the abomination that is "Separate but Equal." We were not meant to be separated. Only crazies separate their M&Ms by color. This is a touchy subject for me. Sexy is sexy is sexy, no matter what color it is. Delicious is delicious is delicious no matter what country it's from. A good fuck is a good fuck is a good fuck, no matter what religion. Our bodies and libidos and hearts don't know the difference between black white or middle eastern, and that is the power of attraction- God love us horny people for it.
:) Yay! Nice to see the world is evolving.
i didnt know people still tripped on it. ive always been surrounded by it even im in one :)
I love being in an interracial relationship...And I can't wait to have some adorable mixed kids with him <3
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I get down with brown, green, yellow or fuchsia. You lookin' good and we're one the same wavelength, why not?
I'm proud to say my boyfriend is Chinese. And I'd be just as proud to say if he were Black or White or anything in between. And it's because he's a good, hard working honest man who I am fortunate enough to have found and allowed myself to open up to. And that's that :-) And the people who have negativity to spew can watch me continue on shaking my ass with my man latched onto my arm as we merrily skip away. No time for hate. Only love!
WOW how did i miss this post?!? i completellllly agree. i am into someone that is white... and i know we will be together at some point.. but i can only imagine how much people will hate to see us together... but no worries! I will show him off lol.. people need to realize what year it is.
Nice post, and I agree - it's all about being secure. I'm dating a white guy (I'm Asian), and I HATE the flack we always get about, "oh another white guy and asian girl"... it's like, did anyone stop to think that we date the people we date because we like them for something OTHER than their damn skin tone?!? lol.
I was about to post a rant of my own on the stigma attached to meeting a significant other online - which is how I met my boyfriend...
And the girl up there who said she wants cute mixed babied - DUDE I am SO with you on that :p
I agree...good entry. I'm Black and my new hubby is White. If they don't like seeing people who don't have the same skin color together, well, that's their problem. They shouldn't try to make it mine. We've been in a relationship for 8 1/2 years now, lol...neither of us is going anywhere. People should get over it and mind their own business.
By the way, you rock. I looove your blog. You're a girl after my own heart...just bolder about it than I am. Keep it up. You're a blast.
By the way, I've never dated a Black man either.
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